Tired of Facing Criticism, then deal with it. But How?

The word itself is enough for anyone to feel low and lose interest in his/her life. But, is it that bad that 90% of us hates to listen to it? So, let’s see what exactly it is.

Criticism in simple terms is just a statement which generally shows what is wrong with anything. The statement itself is not bad, it’s the belief that we make after hearing it is. A student hearing that he/she is not good in a subject is criticism, a person hearing bad things about his behavior, act, appearance or personality is criticism, a company hearing that its manufacturing process is not suitable is a criticism, a government hearing about its faulty policies is criticism and the list goes on.

If you want to be successful, if you want to be happy and if you want to develop a rich mindset you must deal with criticism and rejection. When you hear criticism it’s not the time to worry, it’s the time to look at yourself. If you believe you are right, then continue your work and let others bark behind your back and if you think you are wrong then try to improve yourself. Amitabh Bachchan was once criticized for his deep voice but now he is one of the famous personalities in the film industry. But, the question arises, how to deal with it?

Understanding the problem

For getting to a solution, one needs to understand the problem first, only after that a proper plan can be made to get things to work out. Nobody is perfect in the world and some kind of flaw will always be there. Search any of the biggest blockbusters in the history of film industry, you will always find some people who are not satisfied with it. No matter how beautifully a YouTube video is made, you will always see some dislike buttons. In a wedding, even if everything is according to plan, if there is just a small delay or mishap, criticism will be knocking down the doors.

So, the point is, no matter what you do, where you do and how you do, there will always be someone who will criticize you. You need to see whether that number is high or low. If the number is high then that means there is something wrong with your work or with yourself and if the number is low, then that’s their problem and not yours.

Be empathetic

Every person has their own perspective. What seems to be right for one can be wrong for the other. If for being yourself, some say bad things about you, then that’s their point of view. If you think that you are right, then it doesn’t matter what others think. You also need to understand that the way of living, thinking process and the incidents that happens in anyone’s life is also different. You don’t know what they have gone through and they don’t know what you have gone through, so even if someone says something unpleasant, one should not take it in a bad way.

It hurts when you hear some negative news of yourself even when you haven’t done it and when you have to live with those mentalities, then it becomes even more difficult. Ask yourself, is the information about is right or not. If it is, then accept it and try to change a little and if not then it doesn’t matter. People will see and think what they want to. If you are in their league, then continue to worry or you can stand up and focus more on yourself.

Work on the critics

There are two ways of taking criticism, either keep thinking about the bad stuff or work on it. Critics points out the flaws. It means, these are the things that you need to work on to make it even better. It is not necessary that everything that is said about you is wrong, at some places you can be wrong as well.

So, being a good listener can be helpful as well. Many great artists have produced their best work while considering their critics. What they did is simple. They take the negative side of the story and converted it into songs, plays, artwork and films. That’s what you also need to do. Take those comments as an inspiration and a motivator to keep improving and improvising yourself.

Don’t confuse a critic with a realistic

A realistic is someone who in a pleasant way caution you about everything which may include some negatives while a critic is the one who will only focus on the negative side. One should always surround yourself with realistic people because they don’t discourage you, they only show you every aspect.

A realistic, you may say is a positive critic which means you will get to know the difficulties and the weak points which you can work upon and can also get some solutions as well. So, surround yourself with realistic people and you will always get good feedbacks without getting yourself disheartened and you can always strive to get better than before.

Just ask solution to your critics

Let me tell you a story. There was a painter who used to make amazing pictures of nature. He always wanted something more of his paintings, so he kept on innovating himself trying different angles and brushstrokes. One day, after much dedication, he finally came with a sketch which he thought was perfect. He carefully framed it and placed it on the busiest side of the city. With the sketch, there was a marker and a note saying that if anyone thinks there is a mistake in the painting then point it with the marker. Later, when he goes to see his work, he thought to himself that there will not be a single mark. But, when he saw it, it left him speechless. There were dozens of marks in the painting. He was very disappointed as he thought that it was perfect but still some people found some flaws.

He talked about it with his friend. His friend told him to make another master piece but this time in the note say that if anyone thinks that there is some mistake, please correct it. The painter drew a sketch and placed it like the way his friend said it. This time, when he goes to see his work, he was surprised to see that not a single mark was there in the painting. The story tells us that even if we think that we have a done a great work, some will always think it otherwise, as pointing out at someone is very easy. But when we ask for solution everyone will get silent. So, if anyone makes fun of your work, just ask to show the solution first and then laugh all you want.

Every person in the world has faced criticism at some point of time and some have gone to scale great heights. While facing criticism, you will always feel to change yourself completely, you may get sad but one thing you must remember is that you are a person who is capable of improving to even better than before. This is where, the concept of self love comes to play. Have faith in yourself, take positives from the bad side and keep working without thinking what others think about you. Because breakers gonna break, break, break, break, break, haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate, you just need to shake, shake, shake and shake it off.

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