Self-Love

Self-love is a very delicate and mis-understood concept. Most people generally think that they love themselves and take care of themselves and some even mix or get confuse it with self-obsession. First let's try to understand it. Suppose a person wants to learn a new hobby or skill and he perfected it. He will be delighted and will be proud of himself. This is what most people think of self-love. Now if that person due to any reason failed to acquire that skill or hobby, he feels low, he starts judging his potential. This is where the concept of self-love comes up. As Lord Buddha said, you deserve your love and affection.

Self-love like any other aura is neither unconditional or a thing to show to everyone. It should not be linked with any achievement. It is a life-long care of ourselves. So, if we fail to learn anything new, instead of doubting ourselves, we should try to find out what we are doing wrong. It can be due to improper planning, some external events, not giving proper time to it. Before judging anything bad about ourselves, we must make sure to analyse every situation properly. If we believe in ourselves about anything, we will achieve it. Believing that only we are the best and only we can do it is, self-obsession and over-confidence.

Self-love helps to understand yourself better

When you like something, you put so much attention to it. You try to know as much as possible. Our mind has so much potential to store information and use it for our benefit so, just imagine if we start loving ourselves, how much information we will get to know about us. Maybe we may find some hidden potential which we didn’t even know before.

In our life, we all have sometimes taken some things as a liberty and when we lose it or we try to do it ourselves, we realize that how much important it was, how much effort and time it takes to do it. My point is if we don’t take care of us, one day we will realise that we have lost the most important thing in our life, that is, us. It takes time and effort to build it but it’s worth it. If you get to know yourself, you will make better decisions for yourself.

Self-love is not judging oneself, it is to improve yourself

Judging others is bad and is harmful for us but what more harmful than judging others is to judge yourself. You need to know that everyone person has some great potential and nobody is perfect. Different people have different perspectives and you can’t compare anyone. There are both positive and negative people in this world. We listen to both but most of us tend to remember the bad ones. Why? Because they have a much bigger impact on our belief.

One needs to remember that people will shake you, break you, rate you but how you handle yourself, will tell what makes you. Just because, if someone makes fun about your personality, health, intelligence, beauty or anything, it dosen’t mean that you are bad in any of it. You need to appreciate what you are. If you can’t appreciate yourself, what makes you think that people will appreciate you. If you can’t love yourself, how can you see people loving you and if you can’t help yourself, nobody will even bother to help you.

Just stand in front of mirror and look at yourself and say you are kind, beautiful and have great potential. Instantly, you will get that positive vibe. You will feel good. It takes only 2 minutes to do this and it will fetch better results. So, imagine if you make this your habit and everyday reminds yourself your value, then a positive change will come in your life.

Believe in yourself. If someone is saying something bad, he/she might be right or wrong but if you give up, then you are the loser. What you need to do is, take the positives and work on the negative comments and continue to improve yourself.

Self-love is the key to happiness

We know it’s impossible to keep everyone happy around us and make them feel good about us. The problem you will have is that out of 100, even if you have made 90 people smile, you will keep on thinking why the rest 10 are unhappy with me. What is my fault?

You need to see that there are 90 people who are happy by your efforts, that’s the positive side you should see. Then come to the rest 10 and try to find out what went wrong. You should focus on the part that because of you 90, people are smiling. Getting a single person to feel good is in itself a commendable achievement and here you are talking about 90 you should be proud of it. Start seeing the good in yourself, you need to be happy for yourself. If you want to spread happiness, you need to have it, to share it.

Self-love is important

Many of has heard that during take-offs, crew members of every airline read out safety instructions for our protection. One of them is oxygen mask. The instruction states, “In case of decompression, oxygen mask will come out. Put your mask first before assisting others.” I know it’s not the full instruction but I only need this line to say what I want to say. This is also a case of self-love.

Many believe that it’s just a selfish act and many use it to make us believe that only you are important and not the others. Well, I can’t do anything about it. As I said, everyone has different perspective. According to me, it’s not a case of selfish it is necessary. If you haven’t put the mask on yourself, then you won’t be able to help others. Instead of helping others, you may end up losing everyone around you.

So, we can say that self-love is the development of ourselves, to get us into a better position, to appreciate ourselves and to understand ourselves. If we keep progressing in our path, we will eventually showcase what we are and what we can do which will certainly benefit everyone and that’s the best way to make everyone happy and off-course to make get a special place in so many hearts. So, remember, raise your level to reach new heights, and you will be an asset in this world.

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